How to heal your spending problem
No matter who you are or where you come from—all of us have a coping mechanism that’s unique to us.
Some people internalize their feelings . . . hold onto them and then release them at a later time. While others hold nothing in and do whatever it takes to get an immediate sense of release and gratification through acting out in whatever way they’ve conditioned for themselves.
We don’t develop a coping style or mechanism overnight. Usually it takes years of conditioning to determine what gives us an escape from our pain or stress.
#Shameless dumpster diver by choice
Before we get to gist of what I enjoy about other people’s junk, let me give you some background about myself. I have a passion for buying things that I find value in when others have spurned them. Continue reading
A smaller footprint can make for a bigger bank account
Sometimes bigger isn’t always better and that can include the scale of your life. This is true for me personally as my husband and just downsized from a three bedroom, two bathroom ranch to a two bed, one bath bungalow (it’s super cute BTW).
By society’s standards the location is less desirable and the size is worth snubbing—but who cares? For us it’s an improvement. For one—the character has me smiling ear to ear. From archways to 1900’s glass doorknobs and a large Jack and Jill bathroom—this property has everything we’ve ever wanted.
So, while it might be small to some, it’s a castle to us… and I can see our quality of life improving before my eyes.
How picking up extra hours can be your path to financial freedom
In 2012 I left the comforts of a steady paycheck and job some journalists would kill for to return home 900 plus miles away to be closer to family and my roots. What I hadn’t anticipated was that the risks I was taking at the time would be greater than the ones I took to take the job in the first place.
Back home I soon learned that life was much tougher without having a 40 hour work week to keep the cash flowing and worries at bay.
As you can likely guess, my optimism faded within a few weeks of being home. The grass really wasn’t any greener on the other side.
Ain’t no shame in serving others. This guy is probably making it work as a barista while also freelancing on the side. Make dreams come true with #sidehustles.
My bills and expenses didn’t go away just because I didn’t have a job. On top of that, the family dynamics had shifted while I was away. There really was no “returning home” for me because it wasn’t the same as it was before, I was treated differently. People didn’t get as excited to see me either… as I was “back.”
It was around this time that I set a different goal for my life—to live simply and debt free. I decided to start by paying off my student loans. I knew it wasn’t going to be easy considering I was jobless, but once I started toward that dream, I didn’t back down. I did anything and everything I could to get closer to accomplishing the goal—enter the side hustle—or hustles(sss) I should say.
How consumerism could be the cause of your money ailments
For some it’s neck ties and blu-rays. For others it’s a barrage of pricey hair products, “As Seen on TV,” gadgets and more. I once dated a guy who didn’t seem to have the discipline to resist anything. It was as if his interest and aims had no limit. He had multiple obsessions and weak spots for spending and it put my stomach in knots.
Throughout the hustle and bustle of this year’s holiday season, I’ve sat silently and observantly, watching the attitudes and spending behaviors of others and then looking inwards at my own life. Measuring my performance in some ways.
Simple savings can yield BIG benefits
For years I’ve donated or tossed out my old, used and no longer wanted clothing items. I would ask myself… “Would anyone really pay for this or should I just give it away?” Much of the time I would just give in to the convenience of donation centers and throw bits and pieces out at a time. Over the years I’ve gotten rid of gently worn dresses, skirts and other wardrobe pieces I no longer wore or wanted without thinking much about the costs that were lost. And what lends to an event worse feeling is that stores like PLATO’S CLOSET and Buffalo Exchange weren’t that much of a help either. I always felt scammed when I left those stores with little cash in hand and knowing how much money was likely left on the table. They’re out for profit after all.